This Room Changed Me
Alignment, activation and awe....what I’m walking away with from Growth Day & ULTRA
If you’ve been following me on social media…you know I spent four days last week in a room filled with some of the most powerful minds in the growth space (Brendon Burchard, Ed Mylett, Natalie Ellis and many more greats in the space)
It was electric. It cracked me wide open in the best way and became the exact catalyst I needed to say YES to my next level and to join an elite mastermind with Brendon and Ed. #woohoo
This event wasn’t just powerful... it was personal.
It felt like a remembering of who I’ve always been…a coming home to the most authentic version of me.
Annnnnnnd I know so many of you have been watching this unfold and cheering me on (I love you for that). So if you’ve ever said, “I need something like this too…” maybe this is your nudge….maybe it’s your time.
I’m sharing my notes from all four days of GROWTH DAY SUMMIT below.
Read them. Highlight what hits. Tell me what sticks out to YOU!
DAY 1: ALIGNMENT > ACHIEVEMENT
"Achievement isn't the problem. Alignment is." (That statement alone validated I was in the RIGHT ROOM.)
The danger zone is DETACHMENT…it's hard to have hope when you've been hurt.
The door to success opens inward. #insidejob
You need a higher level of conviction!!!
You are the DIRECTOR of your life. Your emotions are just the actors…just direct them.
ACTIVATE. ACTIVATE. ACTIVATE. What activates you from within? What inspires you? What gets you excited? What gives you energy?
Don’t get caught in the #DOOMSCROLL…it distorts reality and disconnects you from presence. You judge the relevancy of something online, so you end up judging the person in front of you OR start comparing yourself to them….then that leaves your feeling discouraged.
People who need certainty have it CONFUSED with confidence.
Confidence = internal strength
Confidence = embracing what is
Confidence = openess + curiosityAsk yourself: Are you playing at the level required for the life you want? If someone followed you 24/7 for 90 days… would they know you're serious about your goals?
You don’t go into personal development to “fix” something in life…you start the journey to ascend to a higher level.
You're didn’t “burn out”...you just FADED into the pit and are trying to fill a void: Fatigue in the mind and body. the more tired you are the more bitter you are towards people
Aimlessness...doom scrolling puts your off balance. discretion steals your destiny.. look at your goals, internalize them and take action
Discouragement destroys perfromance
Ego is all separation. (edging out god) thinking you're better than others. perfectionists have the biggest ego. Ego is always a battle“Be the Coffee Bean” ☕ — Damon West
you don't need to win all of your fights, but you do need to fight every one" what if your life altering event was your rescue? Debts in life demand to be paid Be a coffee bean, be a change agent in your environment, within your peers, community and network Quit Listening to Yourself and Start TALKING to yourself. Practice your reps for the RIGHT opportunity.
Stop trying to go back to normal — normal is homeostasis.
Practice your reps for the right opportunity.
How we ZAP “into the pit”:
We ZOOM in on the problem
We ATTACHour identity it
We PUNISH or PROCRASTINATE
Instead: Activate → Recalibrate → Align
DAY 2: POTENTIAL > PAST
The goal is to feel better so you can serve better.
The PIT = Fatigue + Aimlessness + Discouragement + Ego
Summon the best of who you are daily.
Don’t measure your future by your mileage. Most people underestimate their potential because they overestimate their past.
You have no idea:
What your true potential is.
What God is preparing you for.
Who you're meant to impact.
Trust the expansion. Believe into the day. Live into the possibility.
“If you recognize the dots that connected your past to your present…why don’t you trust they’re forming for your future!?”
Motivation has 4 key drivers:
VALUE – What would you run through fire for? Do you know what you value in life and in what order?
EVALUATION – Do you believe it’s possible?
IDENTITY – Do you operate from a place of who you’re becoming OR a condition from the past? Grow into possibility.
RISK/REWARD – Is the risk worth the payoff? more people have worry not fears. People think it’s “risky” because they just don’t know how yet
Most people value entertainment > progress.
Risk is often just unfamiliarity, not danger!
Natalie Ellis:
Clarify your identity: who are you?
Own and embody your values: what is most important to you?
Reinforce habits that keep you aligned: what are 3 things your can focus on?
Regularly evaluate and reflect: look at your process weekly/monthly
DAY 3: ERWIN MCMANUS + ED MYLETT
Self-Mastery (Erwin McManus)
Transformation comes through community.
Discipline = Passion + Practice…Do you have the discipline to elevate your talent?
The right process is what produces progress.
Character & Integrity
You become bad at something by:
No talent
No effort
No process
Doing nothing
“Character does not emerge without doing the work.”
Courage = Strengthened heart
Courage comes from integrity.
Integrity = When the inside matches the outside. #nomoremask
“Humans are the only creation on earth with the CHOICE to be in integrity.” #readthatagain
Humility → Integrity → Courage
You can’t be humble if you don’t know your worth, talent, or power.
Wisdom = rare + easy to spot once found
“Jesus saved us from sin…not stupidity.”
You create your future through your choices.
Wisdom is born in the pressure cooker…the pain refines you.
Be faithful in the small things…that’s where growth happens.
Joy, Awe, and Generosity
“You learn the same lesson repeatedly when you keep quitting at the same level of pain.”
Perseverance comes from faithfulness.
Give 51%, take 49%…be generous from a place of wholeness.
What if you were designed to be filled with: Joy, Love and Kindness
A shattered soul can’t play the song of your life unless you:
Forgive
Be grateful
Create
Live in awe
ED MYLETT: Confidence, Intent, Identity
Confidence = Keeping promises to yourself…it bends reality.
Build habits…grow confidence.
The Power of One More: one action, one choice, one day at a time.
Give yourself credit for what you have done this far. #dontbesohardonyourself
Believe tomorrow will be better than today.
Intent + Heart = Confidence
Identity is your thermostat.
Standards > Goals
Obsessions become possessions.
Mentally rehearse your wins.
Confidence + Intention + Obsession = Greatness
DAY 4: ULTRA INSIGHTS & STRATEGY
Ed & Brendon Q&A
Do not be obsessed with outcomes. Be obsessed with execution. Stay in the present moment to access the mental edge. Be open to how the outcome will come to you.
Eliminate the phrase: “It’s supposed to be this way.”
Flexibility > Rigidity
Play the long game. Play the faith game.
You don’t have to “feel ready” to take aligned action.
Connection & Leadership
Flip the “What if?” thinking to possibility thinking.
Don’t turn your loss into your identity.
Be resourceful. Be self-reliant. Be fascinated by your work.
Train like an athlete. Innovate + evolve.
Live from a place of Unconditional positive regard (Love + Respect + Humble Spirit)
Spiritual freedom = not quitting.
“Your breakdown is God’s building point.”
Growth Day LIVE was more than an event…it was a reset, a realignment and a reminder that we are always one decision away from a new level.
If something stirred in you while reading this… don’t ignore it. That’s your sign. Your next level isn’t waiting…it’s already here.
PS: Want to start your own Growth Day journey or join us at the next ULTRA Mastermind in July? Here’s how to get in:
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XO
Alexis
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